You would think with all the things adults take the time to tell you, they’d include some universal things about adulting that you really need to know. I’m not talking about budgeting suggestions, salary negotiation guidelines, or how to do laundry. You need some general life info. And I don’t know about you, but I like to have a heads-up on any gotchas that are coming my way.

So, here’s your heads-up on 10 Adulting Things No One Talks About (this post contains #s 1-3).

They’re everywhere! All the control you wanted to make all your own choices as a kid, you have it and more…and you won’t like I because it is relentless. At first it’s kinda fun. But then you realize 2 things: (1) you are spending an awful lot of time evaluating the options so you can make the decisions, and (2) it’s not as enjoyable when you’re the one who has to pay for the choices you make.

Even with paperless billing and no magazines or newspapers, adults receive an astonishing amount of paper. Before you have children with assignments, art projects, permission slips, and study guides, you get presentation invitations that promise free steak dinners, coupon packets, insurance and credit card offers, and the bills from companies that don’t do paperless billing. It’s a mountain of tree-killing advertisements, reminders, and requirements for your coins.

There’s always pressure to complete a task or start a new one or something! Get a degree, find your person/get married, have a kid or two, buy a house, go to the gym, buy the new phone, go on another trip, buy a new outfit (again), blah blah blah.

And here’s a shocker: sometimes the pressure is coming from you! Your friends, coworkers, and parents will definitely make healthy contributions to your pressure bucket. But what often tips it over is you—unrealistic expectations that pressure you into choices that may not be the healthiest for you.